Following a divorce, you may worry about your children and how their life will be after the breakup. Many worry that co-parenting could harm their children more than staying together.
However, according to Today’s Parent, you can create a more civil, harmonious co-parenting situation.
Children learn harmony
After a divorce, learning to work together takes time and effort. As you put effort into it, your kids see two people that can set aside their differences for their children’s sake. They learn that sometimes you must be civil and get along with people, despite how you might feel about them.
If you expose your kids to a lot of fighting or if you struggle openly with having to contact or work with your former spouse, then your kids will pick up on the combative behavior. Not only do you have to worry about them taking sides, but you have to worry about kids not understanding how to be civil with someone.
Children have stability
Children rely on stability, especially after a divorce. A divorce can make it feel like their entire world is turned upside down. You can ease their mind by being a leader in the situation. Show them that both parents still care about them and want to give them a structured and happy life.
Kids with co-parents who put aside their disagreements for their kids tend to have well-rounded children. Their kids are less likely to have behavioral problems or harbor resentment towards either parent.
Stay as respectful as you can with your former spouse and limit your venting to close family members and friends rather than letting your kids hear it.